if you are happy and you know it

if you are happy and you know it; clap your hands. or so the song goes. if you are not happy and you know it--say something. be constructive, proactive, helpful, friendship building...get it off your chest and get on with it. if you are unhappy and don't know it - well that's worse. it requires therapy and really good friend to say "dude, you need help". i hate being the person that says "dude, you need help"--though, to be fair, i think i've heard it from a friend or two myself.

how do you help someone who needs help but doesn't want it? i guess i don't...yet.